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Monday, May 4, 2020
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Bill Royall posted a condolence
Monday, May 4, 2020
Over the years I have observed Doug as he advanced from a night clerk in a motel while completing a law degree from Yale, to become a very successful trial lawyer, arguing cases referred by other lawyers. On one visit to Westport, I saw what a wonderful communicator he was. Doug had been tapped to complete the case of an aviation associate who died suddenly. The case involved an airplane accident on the ground. Doug's only aviation experience was as an airborne army officer leading his paratroopers in jumping out of airplanes. Doug's opposing attorney had just presented an "expert witness" who, on the basis of several photographs, pronounced the exact sequence of how the accident happened. Using documents that Doug had, it was clear that this explanation was impossible. Doug immediately grasped what had actually happened, but how could he explain this to the jury? Doug retrieved from his office a plastic ruler like most of us used in grade school, and placing a pencil in the hole in the center of the ruler and spinning the ruler on the pencil like a propeller, Doug was able to simplify the scenario of what really happened. The jurors understood, but the "expert" had no clue what Doug was talking about. Doug prevailed; I was impressed. The thing I always admired most about Doug was his lifelong and deep-seated commitment to equal rights and social justice. Doug, along with Anne, became committed to these causes from the early days of the civil rights movement in our country. Anyone who knew him could see and feel his genuine conviction of equal rights and equal justice for all. He joined many protests and events during the civil rights movement, including the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom. This gathering of a quarter million, at that time the largest demonstration in U.S. history, was the event where Martin Luther King gave his momentous "I have a Dream" speech. It is regarded as the turning point for civil rights. Doug continued to be involved in civil liberties for the rest of his life. He served as a delegate to the Democratic National Convention in San Francisco and he was nominated to become a federal judge during the Kennedy administration, but the tragic assassination of President Kennedy stopped his nomination when the new administration took over before his confirmation. While I was visiting Chapel Hill shortly before Doug's death, I expressed my admiration to Doug for his early lifelong commitment to civil rights. I asked him, having grown up in the same southern hometown only a few years apart, what was it that made his commitment to civil rights so much more intense than mine? He said, without hesitation, it was the army. Any type of racial discrimination there was not tolerated. Every man was judged by his performance only. Doug not only actively practiced his belief in equal rights, but though his example, he worked to make our country a better place.
Patricia (Clark) Sperling posted a condolence
Tuesday, April 14, 2020
I had the pleasure of having Doug as part of my life - from the time I started at Zeldes, Needle & Cooper, when I was just 19 years old, until I left some almost 15 years later. He helped me grow into the person I am today, and I cherish all of those years I worked with and for him. He was an amazing mentor for me both professional and personally. I am honored to have had him as a part of my life for all of those years. He was kind, generous, funny and always a southern gentleman. For me, the was one of the best "father figures" I could've had in my life during those years. He helped me purchase my first car, and, when he was on vacation one time, called and asked me to take his Jaguar XJS to the emissions center while he was away. Oh, my, the memory I have of doing that. Every time I see a Jaguar on the road, I think of him and the trust he had in me to do that for him. My heartfelt condolences to out to Betsy and Ellen, and their families and all of the people who were lucky enough to have their lives touched by Doug.
Susan Stanczyk posted a condolence
Tuesday, April 14, 2020
My heartfelt condolences go out to Ellen and Betsy and their families at this very difficult time. May you find peace and comfort knowing that your Mom and Dad are once again together and continue watching over all of you. I had the pleasure of working with Doug for over 12 years as his legal secretary at Zeldes, Needle & Cooper and Shrader and Knapp. Doug was kind and generous and we all felt appreciated contributing to the success of his law practice. I personally feel that I received a First Class legal education watching the legal minds of Douglas Shrader and Beverly Knapp Anderson collaborate on many of their clients’ cases. His office door was always open and anyone that passed by would be waved to come in and Doug would always share a great story, re-cap Sunday’s football game, or golf tournament, or share a joke. Doug was a great listener too and gave great advice without judging you. Family was important and Doug was so very proud of his beautiful expanded family. Doug and Anne loved Center Pond and spent lots of quality time there with their children and grandchildren. Doug also loved playing golf and would make sure he could get 9 holes in with Anne at least once a week at the Inn at Longshore in Westport before the sun set over Long Island Sound in the Summer and Fall. He enjoyed life. Even though I stopped working with Doug in 1998 to raise my family, we stayed in touch all these years exchanging Christmas cards, family news and well wishes. Doug had a big heart, was a legal mentor to many, a father figure, a genuinely good person and friend. He will be greatly missed and has certainly imprinted on so many people’s hearts.
Beverly Knapp Anderson posted a condolence
Sunday, April 12, 2020
Douglas Shrader was my mentor and later my law partner. Over the years, I never ceased to be amazed by both his intellect and his trial skills. In the courtroom, he was second to none. I will never forget how Doug could cross examine a witness into a corner, always in a gentlemanly manner, with the witness having no idea what was happening. Despite how good Doug was, I never saw any trace of ego. He cared about his clients and he cared about the law. I could not have had a better mentor. Doug was not just a great lawyer, he was a wonderful friend who always was willing to listen with kind words and some sage advice when needed. He was a great storyteller. Whether he was recounting his early trials with Larry Kanaga, the adventures with his young family in Mississipppi, his days in politics, or his more recent teaching of constitutional law, it was a pleasure to listen to his stories. Doug was very proud of his family and would update me in every phone call about his grandchildren and great-grandchildren. It is hard for me to believe he is gone. He will be very much missed. Beverly Knapp Anderson
Betsy posted a condolence
Tuesday, April 7, 2020
For Mom's funeral, I read "Meditations Before Kaddish" by Merritt Malloy. If we had had the privilege of a memorial service for you, I would've read this poem. Love you, Dad, miss you. - B. When I come to the end of the road, And the sun has set for me, I want no rites in a gloom filled room. Why cry for a soul set free? Miss me a little – but not for long. And not with your head bowed low. Remember the love that once we shared. Miss me, but let me go. For this is a journey we must all take, And each must go alone. It’s all part of the master plan, A step on the road to home. When you are lonely and sick at heart, Go to the friends we know, Laugh at all the things we used to do. Miss me, but let me go. --From "Let Me Go" by Christina Georgina Rossetti
Ellenshrader2@gmail.com posted a condolence
Tuesday, April 7, 2020
So many memories, where to start? Teaching me to ride a bike, drive a car (your beloved Camaro), watching Giants games and later, CT women’s basketball games, taking me to work with you on occasional Saturdays and pretending that photocopying was fun? You never let anyone leave the house without cooking them a meal, you loved my husband and kids and grandkids as much as I do, you took great care of mom until the very end, and made it possible for me to have the life I have right now. Thank you so much for your legacy. I miss you but am glad you and mom are together again.
Mary Eleanor Bird posted a condolence
Monday, April 6, 2020
When reminiscing about Doug, two of his singular qualities come repeatedly to my mind. The first is his wickedly dry sense of humor. As Anne's cousin, I frequently stayed with the family in Westport and during one such visit, as I recall, we were all wondering aloud if their dog would want a sodden walk in the rain on that particular evening or would prefer just to curl up on the rug indoors and go to sleep. With no trace of a smile, Doug suggested: "Let's ask him." And no one who has ever dined chez Shrader will soon forget his culinary skill; I specifically recall a Whole Roasted Cauliflower Gratin so delicious it would make Julia Child sob with pleasure. Fun with dogs, and great food: it just doesn't get better than that. RIP with your beloved Anne, Doug.
Ed Rejuney posted a condolence
Wednesday, April 1, 2020
The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear; Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same, And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black. Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. Miss you, Doug! You were a great father-in-law, and we both have loved that Elizabeth! Ed Rejuney
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Wednesday, April 1, 2020
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